Do you ever think that married people who preach about singleness just don’t get it? How can they really understand what you’re going through? Of course they say not to complain – they’re not single!

The truth is, we were all born unmarried. Even married people had to go through the storms of singleness before finding someone. They know from experience that dwelling on loneliness won’t get you far. So, in the single stages of our lives, how do we keep our focus on putting God first?

Desire God More Than A Spouse

God implanted a truth in us deep down, before we were even born, that we should desire nothing stronger than to know Him, to delight in him and to keep His commands because we love Him. “At night my soul longs for You, Indeed, my spirit within me seeks You diligently; For when the earth experiences Your judgments the inhabitants of the world learn righteousness” (Isaiah 26:9). One aspect of this truth may break down to idolization, something that God knows will break us and fill us with emptiness, which is possible.

Keeping God first is keeping the desire for a husband or wife second. That’s not to say that this desire should never exist. It should and will exist if that’s something you truly desire. You will feel the pains of loneliness, and the ache to be with someone because you have the belief that God has someone for you; it’s just a matter of when.

Trust Him

Keeping God first is believing in where He has you right now. You must entrust God with your whole heart and soul. Don’t allow your singleness to be seen as a deprivation, rather as a yielding season to which you can richly experience God.

God is preparing you for one of the most greatest seasons of your life, a season that will yield a deep love with another human being. That doesn’t take a quick prayer and a night for God to think on; that’s a promise that has been in the making for thousands of years that God already has in store for you in His perfect and pleasing timing.

“Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!”  —Psalm 27:14

Wait With Peace And Hope

I encourage you to read a verse over your heart a day, and just meditate on His promises already spoken over your life. That will fill you up with joy, with hope, and with an excitement that you’re in God’s will and it is good. Remember that God is not sometimes in control, but always in control. There is nothing too great for Him.

“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”  —Psalm 37:4

I pray you keep God first, because you believe it’s the greatest thing you can do. I pray you believe that though you may feel that ache and longing for someone, that Jesus will always be enough to satisfy you every day. I pray you feel at peace with who you are, where you are, and where you’re going, and that you have full belief in the faithfulness of our mighty God to give you all your heart’s desires and even more.

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