We first started communicating on ChristianMingle back in April 2013. We became an official couple on May 8th, 2013. We got engaged on February 1st, 2014, and we were married on June 8th, 2014.
Having both been divorced with children, the “typical dating scene” wasn’t a very good option for either of us. All the places you normally meet someone are not really the places to meet a person of faith, and all the places you want to meet someone of faith (like church) doesn’t always feel right. So we both decided to give online dating a try.
It was great to be able to pre-screen a little bit and sort of get to know the person before you decide to invest any more time and energy into them. I think both Wendy and I clicked “Maybe” on each other’s profiles at first; but as I dug a little deeper into our color matches and our quiz answers, Wendy quickly moved up on the list of ladies I wanted to get to know better!
After some persistent “smiles” and “winks, our CM messages turned into texting, talking on the phone, and then our first date! Within a couple of week, we knew that this relationship was worth pursuing, and we committed to each other and God that we would be intentionally dating with the intention of marriage and a commitment to purity!
We have five children between the two of us and having both come from broken marriages, we wanted to be sure we were doing this right for all our sakes! Our “Like” for each other quickly turned to “Love,” and with our focus on the Lord to build our relationship on a solid foundation, we moved forward with meeting each other’s children and then having them meet each other as well. We are now merging into one big happy family as we combine households, work out bedrooms, furniture, and where to put all our clothes!!! We truly never would have met if not for ChristianMingle! It’s been an amazing journey so far and we can’t wait to add chapter after chapter!
As far as successful tips – I would say to definitely utilize the tools at hand like the personality colors and the Compass quiz. Focus on finding the person with the right values and traits vs. just looking at their profile pics, and keep in mind that long after those initial feelings fade you need to have a lot more than physical attraction to build a long, healthy, loving relationship!