Love is a sign of weakness and also a sign of vulnerability. According to whom you might ask?
My answer would be culture and the world’s views. How can you show your strength in your marriage by simply loving? How can you effectively lead your wife if you are perceived as weak and powerless?
I get it, men, because I was there and I lived in my marriage according to this mindset and all it did was fail. In fact, I almost failed it twice.
Do you recall when you first felt love for your wife? The moment may have come after your first kiss or maybe after realizing you couldn’t live without her for another day. The words came out of your mouth, “I Love You,” and something like a fire was born inside of you. A desire and passion was now alive in your heart and all you wanted was more of this love.
But as time passed, the passion may have faded or the feeling of being weak in this love arose inside of you. Why? I finally realized that my personal problem was my sources and, quite frankly, you could also have the same source problem.
Since the culture and this world couldn’t give me the answers I needed, I decided that I must look for answers in other places. My new source became a source I had known for my entire life, but I had never given him an honest chance. The name of this source is Jesus.
Men, please don’t click off this page or doubt my words, you must remember at this point that all other options have been exhausted as they were for me, that maybe you are not happy in your marriage or you just want to make your marriage stronger.
Where is your Bible? Find it and start with the Book of Ephesians.
Ephesians 5:25 states, “husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it.”
Ephesians 5:28 states, “so ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife, loves himself.” Jesus Christ showed us the ultimate example of love when He sacrificed His own body for us. He was willing to put aside His pride, to set aside His doubt and fear, and allow God to do as needed with Him. Are you willing to do this in your marriage?
How often do we put our pride in the way of our marriage or our love for our wives? How much are we willing to sacrifice in order to show her the love she needs? How many times have we embarrassed our wives in order to make us or our friends look good? How can we continue to do this, men? We must rely on the proper source.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. —1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Men, I pray that whatever stage your marriage is in or is headed that you keep the emotion of love alive! Love almost always requires us to do things that are out of our “normal” nature, but in the end we will come away stronger and a better man and husband.
You may not believe me now, but if you’re man enough to give Christ a chance, I know you will not regret it. Do not wait another day to love your wife differently, to engage her faithfully and to seek God daily for guidance and direction. You can do it.
As I am a young man on the topic of love, please feel free to share your thoughts or actual events that have confirmed the strength of love in your marriage!