Marriages are built on communication. Improve communication … improve the marriage.
Poor communication … it will be very difficult to have a successful marriage. We could all stand to improve in this area.
Here are 7 tips for better communication in marriage:
Be a good listener – You can never expect to grow in your communication until you learn to truly hear one another. Have you been listening lately?
Timing is important – Don’t try to address major issues when the other party is distracted. Set aside time to address important topics. Know when to speak and when to listen. Do you need to be silent more often?
Never criticize the person – You can address actions, but when you attack the person, defenses rise and communication fails. Every time. Are you being critical of the one you are supposed to be building up?
Be willing to give each other credit for differences
There are so many…
Men, you can’t talk to your wives as you talk to your guy friends … She is more tender hearted … understand that an deeper meaning is often attached to what they are saying.
Women, if you want your husband to understand something … You must say it in a language he understands … simple … straight-forward … men don’t as easily read subtleties or between the lines.
Keep emotions under control – When the female starts shedding tears or the males anger rises, even though both can be natural responses for either person, communication is hindered. Wait until the intense emotions calm, then address the issue. But, definitely address the issue.
Prompt resolutions – Don’t let issues linger too long. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. The longer an issue lingers, the harder it is to address. Do you have some issues you need to address?
Be willing to humble yourself and forgive – Marriage is hard; people make mistakes; marriage must be free flowing with grace. Are you holding a grudge you need to release?
What would you add to the list? What has improved the communication in your marriage?
Be honest: What is the real state of your marriage communication? Be willing to get the help you need.
There’s a difference in knowing and doing. Let’s commit to improving our marriage communication. I’m in … how about you?
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**This article was originally written/published by the author under the title “7 Tips For Healthier Marriage Communication.”