On January 31, I met Bruce on ChristianMingle. We talked briefly prior to actually meeting. I liked him immediately. He was very easy to talk to and from his profile, I knew that he had the qualities that I had been looking for in a husband. When I read his profile describing what he wanted in a wife, I felt like he was describing me. I had 3 “rules” for “first dates”. No hand holding, no kissing and he was not allowed to know where I lived or come to my home. Bruce broke them all!
After we had dinner we went to church. When we left, I didn’t think I would ever see him again. Yet, he took my hand as we walked to his car and I let him. At his car as I was looking up at him telling him goodbye, he leaned down and gave me a short kiss on the lips! I was shocked and it happened before I knew what he was going to do. I loved the kiss and his lips were the softest I have ever kissed. We talked for the next 10-14 days nearly every night for at least 2 hours. We both shared with each other that we felt like the other person was what we had been looking for. He said when he took my hand in his, he felt a connection. I told him when he kissed me I felt a connection. However, he had recently ended a long time relationship and was not ready to move into another one at that time. He admitted he should not have been looking for another relationship when we met. We saw each other a couple more times and the connection was very strong for me. Yet we did not take our relationship any deeper and in fact stopped it all together – much to my dismay.
I knew that he needed to heal and I didn’t hear from him for about 8 months. Then, he began calling me about once a month and again we talked for over 2 hours each time. I saw him in September of 2008. We had a wonderful time together and the connection was still there. He just was not ready for marriage yet and could not make a commitment. Events in my life changed and I moved from Florida where we both lived, back to Illinois. I did not give him my new phone number or address. He knew that I had moved though. In October of 2009, I received an e-mail from him asking for my phone number. So I gave it to him and the phone calls started again, about once or twice a month.
He planned to be about 2 hours from my home in May and asked if we could get together. We were able to work it out and we spent a very nice romantic evening together. The connection was just as strong for me as it had always been. We decided to pursue a deeper relationship – as best we could with him in Florida and me in Illinois. I visited him in August 2010, and we knew we wanted to continue the relationship and take it deeper. We visited several more times and talked daily on the phone and video chatted many times. On December 20th, he asked me to marry him. After 5 difficult months of being apart most of the time, we were married on May 21, 2011. I am 60 years old and he is 61! It was so hard for me in the beginning to let him go. I could not understand why God would allow me to meet the man of my dreams and then allow him to walk away. So for me, to be able to marry this man after thinking it would never happen is a miracle. Thank you, ChristianMingle, for being the avenue that God used to bring me my dream. God Bless you all!