Are you happily married?
If you hesitated in saying yes, it might be time to infuse your marriage with a new joy. Luckily for you, spring is in the air, and it’s the season of refreshment and renewal.
Read on for three ways to bring a new joy into your marriage this spring.
1. Joy in the Lord
In thy presence is fullness of joy… —Psalm 16:11
To know true joy, one can learn about it from God. He is the true source of joy. As you spend time with Him, you’ll learn to rest in Him, leading to greater peace and contentment in your life.
You’ll grow nearer to God through prayer and Bible reading. Worshiping God is important too, both on your own and at church. Service is another activity that draws closer you to Him. Through the practice of these spiritual disciplines, you’ll get to know God better, and in turn He will teach you what true joy is.
Now, before we go any further, let’s be upfront about something. Joy in the Lord is at the top of this list for a reason. It’s the most important one. Even if the rest of the entries on this list prove difficult at times, joy from God is long-lasting and unchanging. On the flip side, if you are resting in God, you may find that joy in other areas of your life comes more easily as well.
2. Joy in One Another
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. —Proverbs 5:18
God designed your marriage for relationship, procreation and helping one another. But he also designed it for joy. God wants you to enjoy one another!
Remember the feeling when you first started dating your spouse, when you wanted to spend every minute you could together? Maintaining that twitter-pated feeling all the time is an unrealistic goal. But you can still enjoy one another’s company in the time spend together.
For starters, set aside time to spend together, just the two of you. Go out like you used to, or plan some stay-at-home dates. One-on-one time without distractions is a great relationship-builder.
Finding ways to spend time together outside of official dates is also helpful. Tackle home improvement projects as a team, or volunteer together at a church or community organization.
There’s a reason you fell in love with one another in the first place, and it probably had a lot to do with liking being together. Taking time to focus on one another can help you recapture your joy in one another.
3. Joy in Your Family
A wise son maketh a glad father… —Proverbs 10:1
The Bible tells us that children are a blessing. On a day-to-day basis, it’s true that parenting can feel more like a drudgery than an joy. But God promises that raising children is a privilege with a rich reward. If you’re looking for more joy in your marriage, take inventory of the blessings that God has given through your relationship.
On your own, or as a couple, look through photo albums or watch home videos to remind you of happy times. Make a list of the funny things your children have said or done. Create new memories by working on project as a family or taking a trip together.
If you don’t have children of your own, consider other lives that have been blessed by your marriage union. In whose lives have you invested as a couple? Perhaps you’ve committed to serving amongst the youth of your church, or maybe you have made a difference in your nieces, nephews or parents lives. Family doesn’t have to mean just two parents and their biological children. Family joy comes in many forms.
Your marriage can be a place of joy and delight. As you undertake your spring cleaning, add marital revitalization to your to-do list. Seeking joy in God, in one another and in your family, will help your marriage relationship thrive.
How have you found greater joy in your marriage? Give us your best tips for marital bliss!