A godly woman knows when a man is being artificial with her; she can read between the lines when he flaunts his wealth or builds up his physique to impress her. A godly woman can see past these things, and more often than not, she will never find herself with a superficial man. Here’s why.
A godly woman is after God’s heart. She knows pursuing God requires dedication, maturation and a daily leaning into His presence. She knows chasing after the things of God aren’t chasing after the things of this world, and therefore, she will find herself looking past superficial things and into the eyes of a man whose heart is also after God’s and His will.
“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” —Matthew 6:19-21
A godly woman pursues a man whose heart is also after God, whose soul is sound, still and confident in who he is. She is after a man who doesn’t perceive money as the root of life, who doesn’t need a big house or nice cars to be happy, who doesn’t even desire to live in a comfortable little life with a small God. A godly woman desires a man who serves a mighty, vast God; this is why she will look past superficiality and into his heart.
Any follower of God knows that finding someone who’s spiritually mature is key, but can be hard to find. So, a true pursuer of Christ will look past all of the superficial things that could so very easily entangle someone when dating: good looks, charm, money, etc. Exterior qualities only last but a season; they don’t require much of your soul.
“For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world.” —1 John 2:16
God desires for us to build up our characters, to live to glorify Him in all we do; if we pursue someone glorifying themselves, we’ll ultimately find ourselves alone, living with someone who never actually “got it.” They somehow missed the gospel mark, and we found ourselves entrapped in their successes, wealth, power and prosperity. A godly woman who seeks God with all of her might, who prays, soaks in His Word and delves deep into His truths will not find herself with someone like this. She will read his character and be able to discern who is best for her by God’s grace and instruction.
A man who pursues the world is simply missing out on the richness of God. This includes the richness of God that lives in a woman after His heart, the beauty, strength, courage and boldness that lies within her. You won’t find that in many women, which is why a godly woman will turn her face away from artificiality toward someone whose soul beams with the living water, whose face shines with His delight, and whose character reflects His own.
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