God wants His children to seek out other believers, both for friendship and partnership. A singles ministry can help narrow down that search. Whether a ministry completely adheres to singles only or dedicates a few nights or periodic outings for single people, singles ministries offer sermons directed toward the lives of single people. Often there is time to socialize with others so you can get to know other God-fearing people.
Finding the right singles ministry for you depends on what you are looking for. However, God tells us to seek Him out first. So it is important to find a ministry that puts preaching the Word first. Just because a singles ministry brings in many single people, it doesn’t mean it is the right one for you.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. —Matthew 6:33, KJV
It is God who will bring the right person into your life. It is God that you need to look for first before you look for your future spouse. Honor God first, read and study the Word, pray, and God will place the right person in your life. Of course this doesn’t mean we should just sit back and do nothing. Attending a singles ministry may be one way to do your part in finding that right person.
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? —2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV
Be wary of those who may be out to deceive others. Not everyone who attends a singles ministry may be God-fearing; they may only be looking for a date. This is one reason why it is more important to choose a ministry based on your needs for God and the Word.
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. —1 Corinthians 15:33, KJV
A good way to find a singles ministry that suits you is to try them on for size. A spiritual teaching is not something to take lightly. Attend a church service to determine whether or not you like it. Talk with other people who are there and ask them questions about the ministry. Word of mouth is often the best indicator of the quality and validity of something. Trust your instincts: the still, small voice that is God whispering in your ear.
A singles ministry should speak to your heart, as God does. Choose a ministry that will help you further your walk with God and He will help you choose a potential partner. God is love and wants everyone to find love; He did create woman for man. He wants us to pick someone who also believes in Him, who would also put Him first and then live a life of purity until two become one.
The LORD will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O LORD, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands. —Psalms 138:8, KJV
While you are looking for a singles ministry, keep in mind that we do not accomplish things by our own hands but by giving our life over to God. It is true that we need to do our best in achieving our dreams and goals, but we need to trust that God will provide what we need when the time is right.
Do your due diligence when searching for the right ministry, but then turn it over to God. Put Him first and trust that He will let you know whether or not the ministry is right for you and whether or not you will discover a friend or potential partner. When we cast our cares onto God, He takes them from us and gives us back peace.
I have set the LORD always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved. —Psalms 16:8, KJV