We find our identities in a plethora of things: our spouses, relationships, jobs, talents and even materialistic things we own. Yet, something deep within our souls is churning and fighting, and it’s losing the battle of self-identity and worth. We’re increasingly finding our identity in the hands of someone else. How do we not lose who we are, and if we have, how do we find it again?

Finding Your True Identity

For one, our worth is not dependent on status or wealth; in a socially-driven, materialistic society, that can be very hard not to compete with. We often believe we need the latest technology and have to constantly look beautiful, lest we think less of ourselves, or God-forbid, someone else does. Once we accept the truth that identity has absolutely nothing to do with status, wealth or appearance, we can then direct our focus to where our identity actually rests.

Our identity isn’t doing a thousand things at once to find its calling, worth or purpose. Our identity also isn’t sleeping; it’s purely resting in the secure, all-knowing and loving arms of Jesus Christ. That’s where it’s at work, and that’s where our energy should be focused, because when this earth is no longer our home, that’s what will matter in the end.

What God Wants From You

Jesus knew His God-breathed calling; witnesses knew this too, from the Old Testament to prophecies to even stories like Jonah. His calling was definite and beautiful, and it’s something Jesus was content in – so secure, in fact, that His desire was to purely do what His Father willed. Even when something seemed better than the agony and pain on the cross, our Jesus pushed through, willingly, graciously and purposefully.

“Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”  —Luke 22:42

That’s how we should be, too. We should be so concerned with the following the will of the Father that in doing so, we simply are the will of the Father. This is the will of our God, and that we find rest in serving Him. In God’s Word, we don’t hear of Jesus battling His identity, yet it’s not to say we could never relate to Him.

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet he did not sin.”  —Hebrews 4:15

We need to redirect our focus on Jesus, the rescuer of our souls, who identified with us, so that we could find our identity in Him. If you have put your identity and worth in someone else, stop the cycle through prayer, asking friends for guidance and seeking God’s Word. May we never lose sight of that glorious truth.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”  —1 John 3:1 

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