Single parents, are you feeling lonely? Being the sole adult in the house and doing the work of two parents can be a hard road to walk.
Feelings of loneliness and isolation only compound the struggle. Take heart, however, because there is hope. Single parents can build strong relationships that will provide friendship, encouragement and support.
Turn to God
For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called. —Isaiah 54:5, KJV
The most important relationship to cultivate is the one with God. He wants you to walk closely with Him, and He offers constant companionship. Carve out a regular time each day for prayer and Bible reading.
Writing your prayers in a journal can help focus your thoughts and give you a sense of corresponding with a friend. Additionally, a journal provides a record of the ways that God has worked in your life; when you need comfort or assurance, you can look back through your journal and be reminded of His steadfast care for you.
If you’re looking for direction for your Bible time, consider purchasing a guide that can assist your study of a particular topic or book of the Bible. A devotional book is not a substitute for Bible study, but it can be a good addition to your quiet time. Some study guides and devotionals are written especially for single parents.
Find a Friend
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. —Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, (KJV)
A good friend is a treasure, especially for a single parent. A trustworthy friend can offer a shoulder to cry on, give advice, watch your children or simply spend time with you. If you don’t have a friend or two like that, seek one out.
Your church can be a good place to make a new friend. For example, you might meet someone interesting if you try out a group or a class and talk to the people sitting near you. You might find a friend who is going through a similar experience as you by participating in a single parents’ ministry.
However, good friends don’t always have everything in common, so be open to getting to know people who seem quite different from you. An older person in your church can be a faithful mentor who provides parenting advice and wisdom for life.
Also, remember that building a strong friendship takes time, so don’t give up if it doesn’t happen for you right away. Pray about it and ask God to put in your path the kind of friend you need.
Enjoy Your Children
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. —Psalms 127:3, KJV
Children are not a substitute for grown-up friends, but they are good company. You can’t rely on your kids for advice on weighty decisions, but you can have fun with them. If you’re feeling lonely, plan a special activity to do with your children.
Go on a hike, have a pajama and movie night or try out a new restaurant together. Creating memories with your children can ease your feelings of loneliness and bring a new sense of joy and togetherness to your home.
Single parents don’t have to feel alone. If you are dealing with loneliness, ask God to show you the strong bonds that are already present in your life and to send you new companions who will further enrich your life. Sharing life with God, friends and children can be a great source of joy for single parents.