Dear Robin Thicke,

As the angry chatter of your VMA’s performance continues to grow, we must get really honest with ourselves and admit you have somehow stayed “safe” behind the controversy. While the rest of the world continues to pounce and point at Miley, you’ve somehow managed to stay out of the medias spotlight and off their judgmental radar.

I am writing you this letter from one married man to another. And with all judgments set aside, I want to tell you that I was not impressed with your performance, but I do believe your conscience would agree the same. I don’t know anything about you, but I do know that you are a married man who once said “I do” to the woman you love and cherish. That ring on your finger says more than “I am your husband,” but it also says “I will respect you with honor, purity, and an unwavering trust.” 

I want to ask you one simple question: Do you think your performance and music reflects those things?

Don’t get me wrong, I am sure you’ve received at least some sort of media backlash, but I want to tell you that I am not here to judge you, but instead encourage you to rethink your motives, actions and role as a married man working in the world of entertainment.

I’m writing to you as a caring friend even though we have never spoken. You are incredibly talented, and I believe your gift can be used for something much greater than promoting a world of sex and fame. You have an immeasurable platform that can be used as an example for men around the world including your son. I would encourage you to think about how much light you could bring to an industry that is so dark.

As I wrote to Miley Cyrus, I can’t imagine the peer pressure you must feel from labels, managers and other artists around the world. I am sure there are thousands of voices in your life trying to force you to be someone you’re not, and I want to tell you that YOU DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM. You can make your own decisions and this might be the first time anyone has ever told you that.

Although I don’t agree with your lyrics, videos or VMA’s performance, this doesn’t mean I don’t believe in you as a person. Don’t give up the only bling that matters (your wedding ring) for one mounted on a wall with your record sales on it. It’s not worth it.

Think of your son. Think of your wife.

My wife and I believe in you, and I believe your purpose is so much greater than what’s currently being shown. This is a hand of grace being shown for someone we truly believe in.

 

Jarrid Wilson