Joining an online dating site can be a big step. If you’re a ChristianMingle member (or are thinking about becoming one), you’ve probably put a lot of thought into what types of values you’re looking for in a relationship. But once you join, how do you actually meet people online? Here’s a quick list of the best ways to find a match on ChristianMingle.

1. Work On Your Profile

You only get one shot to make a first impression, but the great thing about online dating is that you get to control what that first impression looks like. So don’t waste the opportunity to perfect your profile as much as possible!

ChristianMingle recently debuted an enhanced profile which makes it even easier to showcase your personality. The new layout means more room for your photos, more space to describe yourself in detail and a new spot where you can include a quote that’s meaningful to you. For the best results, fill out as much information as possible and include recent photos. When describing yourself, avoid clichés and be honest. And if you’re really trying to attract attention, consider taking advantage of our Highlighted Profile and Member Spotlight features available to paid members.

2. Narrow Down Your Search

Millions of people are on ChristianMingle (seriously – MILLIONS!), so scarcity of options isn’t an issue for most members. In fact, many new users are overwhelmed by the many potential matches they suddenly have when they first sign up. Fortunately, ChristianMingle also has plenty of tools that make it possible to narrow down the selection to the people who might really be a great match for you, including:

• Matches: Based on the Match Preferences you set, ChristianMingle will send you a list of members that are best suited to your interests and values.
• Favorites: You can bookmark profiles that are particularly interesting by adding them to your Favorites list. This makes it easy to go back and compare some of your top choices later on.
• Search: Use the Search function to look for specific types of matches. You can refine your search according to all types of factors, like marital status, height and education. Then, you can filter the results by who’s closest to you, who’s a new member and other important details.

3. Make Your First Message Count

Approaching someone who’s caught your eye online can be intimidating. But when you’ve developed a great introductory message and taken time to personalize it, you’re more likely to get the results you want.

On ChristianMingle, there are some helpful features that can make it easier to craft a good message. First, you can use the “Save Draft” button if you’re not quite ready to send; in fact, taking some time to think about your message before you hit “Send” is a great way to refine those first lines. If you’re stuck for how to start, check out our messaging tips for what to say, which include mentioning common interests and complimenting a potential match.

Want to keep things light for your first contact? Send a “Smile” to playfully express your interest. You don’t even need to be a paid member to do it!

4. Have A Real-Time Convo

Some people wait until they’ve exchanged a few messages to use ChristianMingle’s Instant Messaging (IM) feature. But you can also go straight to live chatting if that’s how you roll! To see who’s available, go to the Search page and check the “Online Now” box. Or, you can look for a green circle to appear on a member’s profile card to indicate that he or she currently online.

If you’re thinking there aren’t enough Christian singles in your area, it’s time to join ChristianMingle. Now that you know where to go to find a match, it’ll be so much easier to meet that special someone.

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