The search for a soul mate can be a long and frustrating journey, especially for someone who is focused on the end result. There are a number of different factors that can go into the hunt, whether you’re the last of your friends to be married or just in search of the dream of the husband and the white picket fence.
However, marriage is often misconstrued. When you are focused on solely wanting a husband, you can overlook the reality of marriage. While everyone might have loved when Jerry Maguire exclaimed, “You complete me” in the 1996 film Jerry Maguire, the notion of being half a person doesn’t make sense in the real world.
Instead of looking for someone to complete you and fill all the gaps in your life, it is more important to complete yourself. Going into a relationship as a broken person looking for the other to make everything better is not a healthy way to start a new relationship.
For Christians looking to find a partner to love, marry and ultimately spend their lives with; the focus should be on love for the Lord.
He that followeth after righteousness and mercy findeth life, righteousness, and honour. —Proverbs 21:21, KJV
Through this faith in God, you will find peace within yourself, which will make you more complete and ready for a partner — and more attractive.
Once you are comfortable with yourself and your faith, look for someone who is a match for you. When casting out your net in search of a husband, the net can be all-encompassing and bring those that do not have the same values or beliefs as you do. Instead of focusing on seeking out someone, anyone, set your sights on yourself and what your own goals are for the future. You will not only be able to focus your search; you will become more self aware.
Instead of looking to others for self fulfillment, focus on fulfillment in yourself and what you find will be reflective of your whole self.
And now, Lord, what wait I for? my hope is in thee. —Psalms 39:7, KJV
Rather than waiting around for the perfect husband to miraculously appear, strengthen your inner self and your faith in the Lord.
Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the water, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit. —Jeremiah 17:7-8, KJV
It can be easy to hold envy in your heart when it comes to finding true love, especially when it seems that the media depicts it as such a frivolous thing that can come and go on a whim. However, it’s crucial to understand that the institution of marriage is far more than the magnitude of your wedding day or the size of your engagement ring. Finding a husband who reflects your own beliefs and the values you hold for your future is far more important than the speediness of the find.