You found someone you like online—they’re cute, they share a bunch of interests with you, and their profile makes them seem really friendly and approachable. You send a message, anticipating a fast response, and you wait. And you wait. And you wait.

This situation can make you anxious, and can even come with a touch of heartbreak. How can someone seem so right for you yet not respond to your carefully thought-out message?

Rest easy. There are plenty of reasons why your crush didn’t respond—and none of them have anything to do with your value as a person or potential partner.

1.    They aren’t very active. It could be that your crush simply isn’t active on this particular dating site. They might get on for a quick browse now and again, but doesn’t like sending messages to many people. You aren’t alone here.

2.    They’re buried in messages. If you’re attracted to this person, chances are many people are attracted to them. They probably get dozens of messages a day, and might not have the time or inclination to respond to every one of them.

3.    They can’t think of anything good to say. They saw your message, read what you had to say, and wanted to respond, but couldn’t think of anything good to say. As a result, they could have forgone the opportunity entirely.

4.    They’re intimidated by you. Don’t write off the possibility that they see you as out of their league. Your charm might make them feel intimidated, forcing them to avoid messaging you back.

5.    They just aren’t into you. Try not to take it personally. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you—it doesn’t make you any less worthy of love from someone who is.

Try not to take it personally when your crush doesn’t respond. In all likelihood, it probably has nothing to do with you. Besides, to break out a dusty old cliché—there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Don’t ever get too hung up on any one person.


Sheila Blagg is a Divorce Mediator certified  through the Ohio Supreme courts, & founder & CEO of Divorce 2 Dating, the first social networking site for individuals navigating a divorce. Follow Sheila on Twitter and Facebook!

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