For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. —Romans 8:5, KJV
Place God First
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. —Matthew 6:33, KJV
As you enter the world of Christian dating, or if you are already there, be sure to place God first above all else. When we seek out the Lord as our first priority in life, He orchestrates our steps and gives us what we need.
Putting too much emphasis on another person or the act of dating entraps us to earthly things. We are to live in the spirit and not the flesh. When we follow God first, He lifts us up. And as you place God first, you will enter into dating with a clearer mind.
Date a Believer
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? —2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV
Can two walk together, except they be agreed? —Amos 3:3, KJV
Christian dating is not just about you being a Christian; it’s also about the other person walking with God as well. A strong relationship happens when two people believe in the same fundamental principles, as in following God and putting Him first.
When two people allow God to not only enter their relationship but act as the glue, God is in control. This is not to say that the individual you are dating will be “the one,” but by dating a believer, God will direct your steps and you can be assured that whatever the outcome, it is His plan.
Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:25-32, KJV
Communication is key in any relationship. We are not mind readers. As human beings, we need to speak with one another to better understand one another. God advises us to speak softly, with the utmost respect and in all things speak the truth.
Listening is a large factor in communication. How can we effectively communicate if we do not listen to the words being spoken? Allow God to speak through you and learn to quiet yourself when it is time to listen. Words can heal or hurt; choose what you say very carefully and listen with an open heart.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. —Proverbs 3:5, KJV
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. —1 John 4:18, KJV
Trust is a key factor in an honest relationship. First and foremost, trust God. Trust that God has placed you where you are meant to be. Trust that He has picked the right individual; whether that individual is a future spouse or someone you are meant to learn something from.
No relationship can survive on suspicion or fear; you have to trust the other person. By trusting God first, you can trust another person because God will speak to your heart.
A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. —Proverbs 15:13, KJV
Then I commended mirth, because a man hath no better thing under the sun, than to eat, and to drink, and to be merry: for that shall abide with him of his labour the days of his life, which God giveth him under the sun. —Ecclesiastes 8:15, KJV
Don’t forget to have fun. Dating is meant to be a joyous event. God wants us to laugh and rejoice in all that He has created.
Dating is a time where we get to know another person and what better way than through good, clean activities.